“I used to think that success meant getting the big contract with a television station, becoming famous and making plenty of money. I’ve had all of that over the years and found that it doesn’t satisfy our inner longings for significance…. My hunger for those things has faded over the years, and I have discovered that my relationship with God is what endures and gives me hope and strength for whatever challenge I face.”
So I wrote out a customized version and made our children learn it. We prayed it every day and one day I was surprised to hear their Dad pray it with us.
There was a time when I would clean the house all day, do the shopping, groom the kids, put them to bed, make the evening meal, and then at the end of the day, totally hate my husband for not having helped me. So each day slipped by filled with hate, resentment and unforgiveness.
From our personal and clinical experience we can tell you that it’s easy for couples to get caught up in demanding that their individual needs be met, pouting because they aren’t being met or demeaning each other for how different they are. We all know how painful it when our spouse misses our needs or who we really are. It’s even more painful when they don’t seem to want to know.
Take initiative in planning that surprise afternoon, sending the kids to grandmas for the weekend or creating that romantic environment in the bedroom. At a minimum, you should set aside a weekly date night—you need that regular time to unwind and refocus on each other. That should be a priority.